What is cheating in a relationship?

Cheating in relationship has been tagged with different meaning by different people – to some , “it means to violate rules and regulations” while others believe that cheating is “to be sexually unfaithful”
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No doubt, many people have been in a situation where things seemed to be perfect in their relationship and, all of a sudden, their motives changed. The combination of dorm-room parties, alcohol, and an attraction to fellow course mates can certainly lead to what is feared mostly in a relationship – Cheating.
Cheating in the university is a bit different than in adult relationships because the students are still in the process of maturity, and are trying to figure out what they really want in life.
People cheat for a number of reasons. Either they are not happy in their current relationships, they want to try something (or someone) new, or they simply do not have what it takes to stay committed.
Staying or leaving in a relationship is up to the individual. Cheating is very common in the college setting, but relationships are all about taking risks.
For whatever reasons it is, some people have been traumatised as a result of cheating and it takes almost a lifetime for some others to come out of the situation.
But what are the possible ways or strategies to fix a relationship after cheating? Below are few tips to help out:

• Don’t automatically assume the relationship is doomed:

Normally, after discovering your partner has cheated on you, you find it difficult to cope but relationship experts say “leaving a damaged partnership can sometimes be a cop out”.
Instead, assume that staying together is equally possible.

• Acknowledge that you have created a problem:

It might seem easy, but if you don’t realize the fact that you have messed up, and therefore messed up the relationship, the healing process won’t go anywhere.

• Figure out what drove you to cheat:

Maybe it happened through flirting, whatever the problem is, try to figure it out so you can understand why you made your mistakes and don’t end up repeating hem.

• Cut off communication with the other man or woman:

Recommitting to your relationship means “ceasing all interaction with the person you cheated on your partner” with. It’s not going to be easy, especially if you have developed feelings for that other person or were used to seeing him/her on a regular basis. Still, you need to be totally committed to moving forward in the current relationship.

• Give your partner time to heal:

In an ideal world, the unfaithful partner could just say “I am sorry” and win back the other person’s affection. But in the real world, it can take at least a year for the betrayed partner to feel that he/she is able to trust you again.

• Seek professional help:

A licensed therapist can help figure out how to move past the affair by thinking about the factors that motivated one person to be unfaithful. The therapist can also help you come up with specific ways to restore trust and maintain a stable partnership.